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2010 will be remembered for the lecture by Minister Padoa-Schioppa, who long ago pointed to the youth of today with the term " big babies ", highlighting the perpetuation of a child of the same behavior until the age of thirty.
There are, admittedly, sometimes the constraints of objective behind this social phenomenon entirely Italian, but, in As teacher, I can investigate this phenomenon from a different perspective: that of education, which involves the role of parents today.
Many of them, alas, too many have learned to confuse the good with the affection towards their children. I know, the difference may seem insignificant to say the least, but it is not. And this mainly because the affection, excessive or unbalanced can create unmanageable side effects. affection, in fact, tends to influence the parenting behavior to lead them to avoid their child contact with reality. Parents would that the children were spared all that apparently can cause distress or unhappiness. therefore end up over-protect them, cuddle them hyper ... hyper remove them from life.
Often, when parents become aware of the crime, point to the school as responsible for everything, unable to critically perceive their educational failure.
What is missing certain knowledge that it is the parents become older - mature - it is not only a physical process of evolution, but a psychological process that needs a stimulating environment to be completed effectively. grow to maturity means learning to cope with life by developing a self-critical sense, means being able to tackle the obstacles and try to avoid them. For this already we think of the parents. .. the "loving" parents.
Become a great means, above all, learn to shoulder responsibility towards the situations and understand that freedom is what everyone and anyone because every time that you claim must at least be aware that the answer may be the same, and that reciprocity is the rule that oversees the enjoyment of a right.
From my personal point of view is primarily about growing up learn not to make excuses to justify their own inability, failure, or worse, the absence of true will. To date, this "habit" seems to have become the most popular sport among young people, and certainly the culture of welfare greatly stimulates the circulation. Parents then, seem to be particularly good at teaching it.
Unless you can get easily can always help a good alibi. Just build it on purpose.
And so the kids get used to saying "I can not do this because ..." "I have not become this because ..." "I could not because ...", citing whenever circumstances beyond their control. seems, in fact, that behind every impossible to do, have or be there is always something else that amuses ably interfere with their plans.
This technique, however, is as old as the cuckoo miserably and reveals the absence of a genuine will and, often, a real goal.
as it may seem rhetorical, still "want is power." There is nothing that a man or a woman can not do. There were men who all things have become examples for humanity. They have become rich and famous or just what they wanted to be. Some walks of life are more difficult than others - my life is an example - but the important thing is to believe in what you do, but above all believe in its objectives and activities to really reach them. Whatever It Takes.
I, frankly, I do not think that today is a generation without goals, I think, however, that kids today do not give the time to reach . They want everything right away. Without sacrifice (real sacrifice) and grow and mature without the work of approaching a goal.
bad education, in that sense, even television get used to that, day after day, the perception that success in life is only the result of a fortunate coincidence of events, of a specimen or an appearance in a reality show for brain damage. For these opportunities I know of guys willing to travel long and endless waiting, when they begin to create problems of distance if work takes them twenty minutes from home.
Usually, these allegations, someone says "everyone is free to ask their own priorities." And I could not but agree. Then the question continues to move on the objectives. You want to really achieve it or not, or rather, they are really the goals?
One thing is certain, and it is good that the kids know it, the career is the result of a long and sacrificed. Nothing gets you nowhere. It's pure stupidity to think otherwise. This is demonstrated by the ephemeral success of many of the alleged talent born from nothing to nothing and returned after one season of diaphanous success.
The most frightening thing, returning to some parents, is their cross-eyed perspective nell'assecondare sick dreams of their children. Instead, you must feed the sense of "project" as the final destination of a journey that has nothing easy.
conclude this post with an exhortation to his parents truly love your children, give them a real and rational dimension of life, in which Maybe should be achievable goals, objectives of normality. Goals a reality.
Make them understand that life is hard, but it is for everyone. Teach to feed their passions and do everything to keep them alive, but especially teach them that to become great must juxtapose the concept of law to that of duty.
grow up is to take this difference. The duty is never negative, is an expression of power and will to be free. To be really.
The boys pose, however, a challenge: let's see what stuff you are made. Without alibi.
Joseph Ferraro